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We\u2019re a Halloween family. Love it! We decorate, we dress up, we get the biggest candy bars to hand out \u2014 the whole bit. Halloween is the Buck family\u2019s jam. And every Halloween, kids (and some adults) flock to our front door armed with their canned question: \u201ctrick or treat?\u201d Without fail, we respond with candy bars. Everyone smiles, most say, \u201cThank you,\u201d and off they go into the night. That\u2019s how it\u2019s always gone . . . until last year, when we met an unusual trick-or-treater.<\/p>\n

During our candy-distribution frenzy, we had a group arrive at our doorstep. They did their thing (\u201ctrick or treat?\u201d) and we did ours (candy bars). As the group left, one young lady just stood there, staring at us. That stare and her costume (at least we think it was a costume) were super creepy.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Now, while we love Halloween, we\u2019re not into horror. We\u2019re more of a\u00a0It\u2019s the Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown<\/em>\u00a0kind of Halloween family. So, this was getting really intense. We thought she was doing it for effect \u2014 which was working. We all stood there for a few minutes, simply staring at each other. I wanted to close the door, but that didn\u2019t seem right (or smart). I was hoping for more trick-or-treaters to come by, so that they could break the spell. That didn\u2019t happen either, and she just kept staring.<\/p>\n

Then, she broke her silent stare and slowly raised her hand, holding out the candy bar we\u2019d just given her. If a candy bar could kill, this was the time! She stretched out her arm, with the candybar held like a knife pointed at us, and noted, \u201cI did not say, \u2018Trick or treat?\u2019 I said, \u2018Quip or tweet.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n

\u201cWhat?!,\u201d I exclaimed. She then explained.<\/p>\n

Apparently, she was taking a psychology course, and they were studying automaticity of action. As an experiment, she wanted to see how many people would simply respond with candy, no matter what she said. \u201cIf I give you back your candy bar,\u201d she asked, \u201cwould you initial my paper, so I can show my professor verified data?\u201d \u201cIf you tell me what you\u2019ve learned so far,\u201d I replied, \u201cthen I\u2019ll sign.\u201d<\/p>\n

She told me that she felt it was important to understand how biases work, so that we can find ways to disrupt them. That way, progress could be made on new perspectives. She asked us to think about biases around gender types, sexual orientation, race, and class. She hypothesized that if we can understand how to disrupt the auto-responses that produce our unconscious biases, then that would be the first step in changing perspective.\u00a0<\/p>\n

Our encounter went from creepy to really interesting. In fact, it got me thinking about what happens to negotiators at the negotiating table \u2014 all those times we react inappropriately as a result of auto-responding to what somebody says. For instance, when someone says something as simple as \u201cno.\u201d What was your reaction? Did you assume you knew the reason behind the\u00a0no<\/em>,\u00a0or did you ask questions to better understand it? Or that time someone said, \u201cThat won\u2019t work for me.\u201d Did you just start throwing money at the problem, or did you ask\u00a0why<\/em>\u00a0that won\u2019t work for them?<\/p>\n

How we\u2019ve been conditioned to respond to certain statements, questions, and answers can be the difference between a great deal and a mediocre deal. It can be the difference between making a relationship stronger or making it worse. Being in the moment can certainly help induce a more thoughtful and conscious response. Asking questions can help us to better understand the actual need and motivation behind it, instead of assuming that we know. Being creepy . . . is, well, just being creepy.<\/p>\n

That was probably the best trick-or-treater I\u2019ve ever had. I signed her paper and told her to keep the candy bar for changing my perspective \u2014 that was a great treat.<\/p>\n\n

We Can Help You React Appropriately at the Negotiating Table.<\/strong><\/p>\n

It happens to negotiators all the time \u2014 reacting inappropriately at the negotiating table as a result of auto-responding to what somebody says. Let\u2019s face it, how you\u2019ve been conditioned to respond to certain statements, questions, and answers can be the difference between a great deal and a mediocre deal, between making a relationship stronger or making it worse. The question is, how do you disrupt the auto-responses that produce your unconscious biases? We can help! Drawing on 46 years of real-world negotiating experience, we\u2019ll assist you with getting better deals, saving time, and creating value for all involved \u2014 not to mention preserving and even strengthening relationships. Let us partner you with one of our advisers, ensuring that you\u2019ve got the broadest view of your deal.<\/p>\n

Call one of our experts today:<\/p>\n

P: 04 2979069<\/p>\n

E: info@scotwork.co.nz<\/p>\n<\/article>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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