{"id":12908,"date":"2021-09-29T00:00:00","date_gmt":"2021-09-29T00:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.scotwork.com\/nz\/blog-nz\/please-think-about-them\/"},"modified":"2021-09-29T00:00:00","modified_gmt":"2021-09-29T00:00:00","slug":"please-think-about-them","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.scotwork.com\/nz\/blog-nz\/2021\/please-think-about-them\/","title":{"rendered":"Please, think about them"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Recently, someone called me in a panic about a negotiation they were involved in. Suffice it to say, it wasn\u2019t going well and they needed help,\u00a0urgently<\/em>. They had been negotiating with a long-standing client who had become more demanding and wanted deep price concessions. What was once a good relationship had seemed to sour, and it wasn\u2019t getting any better as the negotiation dragged on. They didn\u2019t want to lose the business, but they could cut their price by only so much before the business was unprofitable. The client didn\u2019t care and was just getting more agitated with every proposal that was made. In fact, the client\u2019s response to each proposal was a curt \u201cthat\u2019s disappointing \u2014 you can do better.\u201d It was a tough situation, for sure.<\/p>\n

The first thing I did with my client \u2014 we\u2019ll call him Sam \u2014 was go through his preparation. Sam was very proud of his preparation. He had well-thought-out objectives, he understood his limits, he had gotten all of his internal stakeholders aligned, and he had assembled a negotiating team around him for support. He had definitely gotten all his ducks in a row as it pertained to his position. However, he was missing one thing: He had not factored the other party into his equation.<\/p>\n

Sure, he had crafted proposals for the other party and had questions that he wanted to ask them, but he never took the time to put himself in their shoes and see the situation from their point of view. Everything he did during the negotiation was based on his perception of reality. Had the other party seen the world the same way, I\u2019ll bet Sam would have had a much easier time. But my gut told me that wasn\u2019t the case.\u00a0<\/p>\n

My suspicion was further supported by Sam\u2019s inability to answer the following questions:<\/p>\n

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  1. Why are they negotiating with you?<\/li>\n
  2. What do they want from you?<\/li>\n
  3. What are they trying to avoid?<\/li>\n
  4. What are their priorities?<\/li>\n
  5. What are the consequences of success & failure to them?<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    Sam had no idea. He knew why he was negotiating with them. He knew what he wanted and what he wanted to avoid. He knew what his priorities were as a consequence of success & failure \u2014 for\u00a0him<\/em>. What was Sam missing? The other side\u2019s view of the same thing. That\u2019s when I told him, \u201cPlease, think about them.\u201d<\/p>\n

    As we went through the list of questions, it was clear that there were a lot of holes in Sam\u2019s knowledge of the other side. However, if Sam answered, \u201cI don\u2019t know\u201d to any of the questions, I had him make an assumption about what he thought their answer might be. I just wanted to get him thinking about them and stop focusing on his own problem at the moment.\u00a0<\/p>\n

    Since Sam had more assumptions than facts, I asked him to come up with a list of questions to test his assumptions. Some of the questions were the same ones that I asked him, but there were many others designed to validate what he knew or uncover all the things that he didn\u2019t know.<\/p>\n

    The following step was planning the next meeting. I advised Sam not to come to the table with any more proposals until he understood the other side better. Therefore, this next meeting was going to find Sam getting curious about the other side and investing time into their wants, needs, desires, motivations, and perspectives. At the end of that meeting, he would summarize to them what he had heard, so that they knew he had heard them.<\/p>\n

    That\u2019s exactly what he did.<\/p>\n

    As soon as Sam left the meeting, he called me. He was so excited: \u201cYou\u2019re not going to believe this, but . . .\u201d He started to share all of the things he had learned about the other side. It turns out, the proposals they were making addressed none of their needs, only Sam\u2019s. After hearing what was important to them and why they wanted certain things, Sam was able to get creative and bring things into his proposal that the client loved; those things also happened to be margin enhancers. Sam\u2019s biggest discovery? The client wasn\u2019t as price-driven as he had thought; however, they weren\u2019t willing to pay for things that didn\u2019t meet their needs. Their \u201cdisappointment\u201d was that Sam wasn\u2019t hearing them. That\u2019s why they felt that he could do better.<\/p>\n

    In short order, Sam was able to get a deal done. What he felt most happy about is that he was able to repair the relationship during this negotiation and put it back on a healthier path. In retrospect, while Sam\u2019s preparation was good, it was incomplete. He forgot about the other side. Had he prepared as rigorously regarding their positions as he did his own, he could have avoided a lot of wasted time and frustration.<\/p>\n

    The next time you prepare for a negotiation, think about the other side! And if you\u2019re ever in a situation like Sam\u2019s, where things aren\u2019t going well, take a step back and put yourself in their shoes, focusing on their needs. You might be surprised by what you discover.<\/p>\n

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    When it comes to negotiations, all of your preparation will be in vain if you fail to consider the other side\u2019s wants, needs, desires, motivations, and perspectives. What should be cordial and productive talks will likely be fraught with frustration and wasted time, eroding even the best of relationships. We can help!\u00a0Drawing on 46 years of real-world negotiating experience, we\u2019ll assist you with getting better deals, saving time, and creating value for all involved \u2014 not to mention preserving and even strengthening relationships. Let us partner you with one of our advisers, ensuring that you\u2019ve got the broadest view of your deal.<\/p>\n

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